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Meet My Mom! Read Her Inspirational Story On Overcoming Challenges And Her Tips for Success For Newcomers!
By amin | Comments: 1 | September 16, 2016Disclaimer: This post/series was sponsored by TD, but all views/opinions are my own.
Today I’m introducing you to my favourite woman in the world and someone I really look up to and that is my mom!
The reason I have experienced any success in my life is because of my mom’s decision to come to Canada in the 1970s so that she and her future children could have a better life in Canada. Growing up, I would often hear her stories and could not imagine how difficult it must have been for her to come to Canada. Remember we are talking about a different time period where there wasn’t social media or the internet or even cell phones. There weren’t even stores nearby where my mom could get Indian food or ingredients. My mom had no idea what life would be like for her here but she knew she could create a better future for us. She struggled plenty, had setbacks and failures, but she never gave up on her dreams.
My mom is from a small village in Punjab, India and had never even stepped foot out of Punjab until she married my father. My father had been living in Canada for only a short time before he went and married my mom. When she was about to move to Canada to join my dad here, she was 23 years old, newly married, and about to leave the only home she had ever known—and her entire family—to move to Canada. My mom had never even been on an airplane before!
My mom joined my dad in what would become her new home in Winnipeg, Manitoba with one suitcase of belongings, no job, and $6 in her pocket. But she worked hard, got the right information, and took the necessary steps to reach her goals. I chatted with my mom and asked her to share her advice to other newcomers.
“Banking today for newcomers is so much easier than when I came to Canada. There were no special programs for newcomers, no services in our languages. I knew a little bit of English when I came here but the English spoken here was hard to follow…the accent was different. But people were willing to take their time to explain things to me to make sure I understood. But it wasn’t easy.â€
My mom was able to find a job within a couple of months of her arrival in Canada. Both my mom and dad worked full time but they had little savings. Whatever money they made, it went to buying things they needed in Canada. “We started out our new life here in Canada by renting a small one bedroom apartment but we didn’t have anything inside! We didn’t even have a couch. As we started making money, we slowly bought the essentials like a couch, table, chairs, things like that. But it took time. We had no extra money. You don’t realize how many things you need until you start with nothing. It took a long time to turn that apartment into a functional home!â€
While my mom and dad struggled to build their lives here, they both had pressure to help out their families back home. Whatever money they could save up, they would send back to India to their families. “We didn’t come from well-off families and there weren’t a lot of well paying jobs in Punjab at that time. It was mostly rural work. So whatever bit we could save up, we would try to help them out. It was a tough time financially.â€
My mom’s first major goal for herself was to eventually buy a home. “We rented for many years because we just didn’t have the savings to buy a house. But I knew that was going to be our first major purchase in Canada. That would be when we knew we had made it—when we owned a home. It took many years but we worked with our financial advisor at our bank. We saved little by little but eventually we saved up enough to purchase our home. My husband and I never had any previous knowledge in what the home buying process was like, how to get a mortgage, or a car loan before we came to Canada. I didn’t even do any of my own banking back in India. But we trusted our financial advisor at TD who helped us learn and answered all our questions. Even if it took a while because of the language barrier!â€

Mom and me being matchy-matchy back in the day!
Shekhar Shory
September 18, 2016Very inspiring.
Very similar to our story but my parents were never able to make their own home.
I am making the same mistake, I think.